改变了自己,世界也就变了

By 简 | 13 July 2016 | 5 Comments

先说个理论

埃里斯的ABCDE情绪管理理论,A是诱发的事件,B是我们对此事件的看法和态度,C产生的行为,D需要讨论的情绪或想法,E调整后的结果。

这个理论是说,我们的情绪或者行为不是由事件直接引起的,而是由我们对事件的看法引起的。也就是说A引起B再到C,而不是A到C,这样我们只要改变对事件的认识B,就能改变C了。

举个例子

小明同学骂我(A),我认为他在侮辱我(B),所以我给他一板砖(C)。

小明同学骂我(A),我认为他素质低,我不能和他一般见识(B),所以我一笑而过(C)


笔者在工作中经常碰到一些棘手的问题,这些问题说白了就是协作上的问题,流程上的东西大家执行起来很随意,各有各的情况,他水平有限学起来困难,他对产品不熟悉,等等,于是笔者想“慢慢来”“这要看老板的决定了”“老板不管我怎么管”等等,于是我分管的工作也乱了,也不按照流程来,同时心里充满了愤怒,这愤怒直接针对老板,总觉的老板没有给安排好。


静静的夜晚,总是会带来些思考,我觉的还是不能这样。

于是,我认真的按照流程,制度去做我的本职工作,并影响了我的上下游和周边同事。发现的问题和老板反应,老板认可的我就立即执行,不认可的我就存起来。慢慢的我发现自己变了,变的没有那么多的怨言,原来那些棘手的问题在我的影响下也变的越来越好了。


问题没变,环境没变,只是我的认知变了,所以我的情绪、行为都发生了改变,从而周边的事情也就变了。

试着改变自己的看法吧!改变了自己, 世界也就变了。


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